Sure, wild, crazy, never-knew-my-body-could-bend-that-way sex might keep your love life exciting, but if your goal is to really learn what works for you, keeping it simple to start is key. “Trying to accomplish complicated acrobatics distracts you from the sex itself, putting your focus on how you can contort yourself, rather than on just experiencing the sensations,” explains sex educator Dorian Solot, co-author of I (Heart) Female Orgasm. “When you want to climax, the simplest positions are often also the best positions.” To help you get there, here are eleven sex positions recommended by experts to make sure your orgasm is the main event.
1. The Eagle
Why’s the classic oral pose so damn good? “It’s a relaxed position for the person receiving pleasure, allowing them to lay back and focus on the sensations,” say Jiz Lee, adult film performer, who knows of such things. “With feet grounded, they can tilt the pelvis or lift their legs to change things up. I recommend folding a pillow under the hips to reduce the angle required of the giver’s neck. It can also allow for eye-contact between partners.” Lee also recommend a sex wedge pillow for better angling or switching up the position with giver kneeling on the floor by the bed, receiver lying with hips at the edge, feet over their partner’s shoulders.
2. Cowgirl Style
Sex therapist Dr. Susan Block is all-in with woman on top, because you can stimulate your clitoris without losing momentum. “Rather than laying there wondering when he’s going to thrust in perfect time with your erotic needs, you can set the rhythm and take him in as deep or as shallow as you like. Or, if you prefer, stay perfectly still (you can do it—you’re on top!) and tantalize both of you by squeezing and releasing your Kegel muscles,” says Block. “You can bend over, give him a kiss and rub your chest against his or sit up and let him have a good look at your gorgeous self, maybe play with your boobs… or reach behind you to squeeze or spank your bottom. Really, the possibilities are endless.”
3. Pushin’ The Cushion
Get on your knees in front of the couch and drape your torso over the cushions in a sort of modified doggy where you’re kinda humping the couch as well. “The key here is to press your vulva against a throw pillow that in turn is pressed against a high-powered vibe against the couch. And I mean turn that Hitachi Magic Wand all the way up,” recommends/commands Trisha Borowicz, orgasm equality blogger and director of Science Sex and the Ladies. “Your partner should allow you to get consistent pressure and grinding against the vibrating pillow while he moves inside you so you have the clit stimulation you need in order to orgasm. Don’t be shy about telling him exactly how to accomplish that. Also, maybe don’t use the nice throw pillow.”
4. The Sticky Scissor
“Lay perpendicular to each other with you on your back and him facing you on his side. One of your legs goes between his and the other is draped over his hips. This allows his top leg to be angled so it’s pressed against your vulva while he’s inside you,” says Borowicz. “While he’s slowly pumping, you can can grind up against his inner thigh to get the clit stimulation you need to come (feel free to use your hands to press his leg down against you and angle it just right…or alternatively just have him move his leg out of the way a bit and use your vibe).”
5. The Up and Over
Missionary position will never be the same again. “While on your back, put a pillow under your butt, lift your hips, and bring your legs up and back toward your shoulders, as though you’re folding in half,” says Solot. This move allows your partner better ease of thrusting and deeper penetration — a perk for both of you. But consider this a warm-up — you’re getting yourself primed for a more intense orgasm. Once you feel like you’re getting into a groove, put your legs down and have him get into coital-alignment-technique (CAT) position. “He’s on top, but he lifts his pelvic bone upward, aligning it with your clitoris,” says sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. “Then he rocks against the area until you peak. The legs-up position is a slow burn that brings you to the brink and increases sensitivity. Then the addition of clitoral rubbing takes you over the edge in a bigger way than if you had done CAT alone,” adds Brame.
6. The Down but Not Out
You’ve probably tried an all-fours pose before, and while doggy style is inarguably hotter than hot, in order to make it extra orgasmic, you need to modify it a bit. “Lie on your stomach, lifting your butt slightly so he can enter you,” suggests Solot. “Your partner can prop himself up with his hands in a push-up position or lie on top of you.” Not only does this facedown configuration provide increased friction as he moves in and out, but you can gently grind your clitoral area against the bed as well.
7. The Lusty Leg Wrap
With all the twisting and bending that goes on, sometimes sex can feel more like your cardio day at the gym than something designed to get you off. That’s why it’s important to have at least one relaxed orgasm-inducing position in your repertoire. Such as this: “While you’re on your back, he should lie on his side, turned toward you,” explains Solot. “Swing both legs over his hips and thighs, making a bridge over them.” Then, just let him gently thrust into you. If it takes you a while to climax, this pose is ideal. “It’s not very aerobic, so the sex can go on for a long time without either of you tiring out,” says Laura Berman, PhD, director of the Berman Center and author of The Passion Prescription. “When you want to climax, it’s easy to touch yourself or he can use his top hand to stimulate you.”
8. On Top of the World
Woman-on-top tends to be a go-to for achieving orgasm, and for good reason. “It allows you to dictate the pace and depth of thrusting, but mainly, you have easy access to your clitoris,” says Berman. “You can touch [it], have him touch it, or rub against his pubic bone to achieve orgasm.” But you can up the ante by literally pulling a 180. Twist around so you’re pointed toward his feet in reverse cowgirl position. “Instead of straddling him, put your legs together, feet flat between his legs,” suggests Brame. The benefits of this are twofold: With your legs together, the fit is even tighter, making the sensations more intense. Plus, there’s increased internal stimulation, which combined with your own clitoral strokes, makes for an explosive orgasm.
9. Table for Two
In some cases, a simple change of scenery can aid in achieving orgasm. For this move, you’ll need a kitchen table — one that comes to your partner’s waist. “Lie down on the table with your butt near the edge,” suggests Solot. “He enters you while standing between your legs, holding on to your hips for leverage.” You can rest your feet on his shoulders or on the edge of the table. Because he’s standing, his hands are free to stroke your body,” says Brame. “And he’s at a perpendicular angle, rather than right on top of you, making it easier for him to touch your clitoris, unobstructed.” To up your odds of orgasming, clench and lift up your butt, which will increase the pelvic tension and blood flow to the area.
10. The Sit and Straddle
Have your partner sit, and straddle him so you’re face-to-face. “You have a lot of control over the speed, angle, and motion because you can use your arms and legs to help you maneuver,” says Berman. “Rather than just moving up and down, which can be especially tiring, sway forward and back, rubbing your clitoral area against him.” In addition to the freedom of movement, there are a few other benefits to this move. “If you lean back just a little bit, you’ll get greater internal stimulation and he’ll be able to play with your clitoris,” Brame explains. Plus, your breasts will be perfectly aligned with his mouth, adding a whole other layer to the sexual experience. Seriously, don’t neglect the boobs, people.
11. The Sweet Spoons
Emotional attachment to your partner can absolutely play a role in orgasm. If that sounds like you, there’s no configuration that’s more snuggly than the spoon. To assume the position, simply lie on your side, your dude scooted up behind you. Rather than move in and out, he should stay inside you, gently thrusting against the front wall of your vagina. “Aside from fulfilling your cuddly needs, it provides consistent stimulation, which is key for achieving orgasm from intercourse,” Berman points out. “Since he may not be able to penetrate you as deeply though, guide his hand around your [clitoris].” And just think: Once you’ve both climaxed, you’ll be in perfect postcoital cuddle position too.
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