When you decide you\u2019re ready to receive anal sex, you need to be in control of it from start to finish. That means you need to make it obvious that you want it, because your partner might be too uncertain to initiate it without your express permission.<\/p>\n
The easiest way to tell your partner you want anal sex is, well, to tell them you want anal.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Many people aren\u2019t so good at picking up dropped hints or reading the subtlety of your body language, so telling them directly and explicitly that you want it is the only failsafe approach, plus it means you\u2019re able to talk about things like possible boundaries, previous experiences, etc.<\/p>\n
Now, there are two ways to go about this. You can ask your partner explicitly while you\u2019re already having sex, which many people might find feels more comfortable and natural. However, it doesn\u2019t exactly make it easy to have an extended conversation about the aforementioned boundaries or reservations you may have if you\u2019re an anal sex beginner.<\/p>\n
You can bring it up before hand through flirty texting\u00a0\u00a0which certainly sets up the anticipation, however it does have two possible drawbacks: one, you may no longer be in the mood when it comes to it, and two, they might think that\u2019s\u00a0all<\/em>\u00a0you want, so they\u2019ll focus on that and leave the rest of your body wanting.<\/p>\n
Another approach, particularly as you get more comfortable with anal sex, is to tell your partner by showing; start with self stimulation (or guiding your partner\u2019s hand) or using a small vibrator made for anal\u00a0play.<\/p>\n
Initiating Anal Sex: Giving<\/h2>\n
Does anal sex hurt? Yes, it can. But is anal sex pleasurable? Yes, potentially. But you need to approach it\u2026 sensitively.<\/p>\n
It should go without saying, but if your partner hasn\u2019t initiated it or said outright that they are open to trying anal sex, you need to ask.<\/p>\n
Generally speaking, anal stimulation during sex can be somewhat divisive, and \u2018just going for it\u2019 is\u00a0not\u00a0okay.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
So exactly as above, there are several options available: ask them directly during sex or foreplay, bring it up beforehand via text or email, or show your partner what you want by paying their butt some extra attention during foreplay and gauging the reaction.<\/p>\n
One of our favourite sex positions for initiating anal sex\u00a0is in the spooning position. You\u2019re both comfy and relaxed with all bodyweight is supported. Then pull out of her and rub yourself against them; they\u2019ll quickly acknowledge whether it\u2019s ok or not without having to break the mood.<\/p>\n
But remember, there are no shortcuts and nothing beats good, honest bedroom communication\u00a0\u00a0\u2013 and good dirty talk\u00a0does count as good communication.<\/p>\n
Make Anal Sex More Pleasurable<\/h2>\n
While there are those rare times that, like stars aligning, the mood will strike both of you simultaneously and you\u2019ll have the most incredible and satisfying anal sex imaginable, usually there is some preparation required.<\/p>\n
Remember that if you\u2019re receiving anal sex (of the penetrative or oral-anal variety), you need to be in control of it, to whatever degree you want. You will need to control the speed and he will need to listen to you, otherwise it will be uncomfortable and it will stop. The opportunity might be lost until some trust can be rebuilt.<\/p>\n
Here are 4 things to try to help make anal sex better.<\/strong><\/h4>\n
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You already know that all positions are not created equal, so explore some<\/p>\n
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- Lube.\u00a0<\/strong>You probably already know that lube\u00a0is essential for anal sex. The more the better. Apply enough to squeeze a manatee through a letterbox, and then apply more.\u00a0The more lube involved, the more pleasurable it will be for both of you. It\u2019s as simple as that.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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- Condoms. Condoms are great for anal<\/strong>\u00a0and not only because they enhance your sexual safety. Condoms actually make anal sex better because their smoothness responds better to lube than skin does. Condoms glide easier, and as a result are more comfortable. What\u2019s more, they can help prevent the thrusting partner from climaxing too soon too.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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- Anal Sex Toys.\u00a0<\/strong>Even anal sex experts find a \u2018warm up\u2019 to penetrative sex handy, so introducing some anal toys like a butt plus\u00a0or vibrating prostate massager\u00a0during foreplay can help ease the transition into anal sex. \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 As a reminder though, any toy that is used anally should have a flared base to avoid it accidentally disappearing inside you, and anything used anally needs to be washed or covered with a clean condom before being used in another orifice.\u00a0 During anal sex, try stimulating your clit or other erogenous zones with a vibrator\u00a0while you\u2019re having sex to double the intensity of the sensations and build up to a really fulfilling orgasm.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
To Sum Up<\/h2>\n
The most important part of enjoying better anal sex, or any kind of sex for that matter, is talking. The most sensitive erogenous zone is between the ears, stimulate that one and the sex will always be mind-blowing.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"